Code of Conduct




To enable children who enroll in the BMYL Lacrosse Program to have a positive playing experience, and learn to play and love the game, BMYL Lacrosse establishes the following conduct standards for coaches, players and parents.  This Code of Conduct is a condition of participation for all coaches, players and parents. All such participants in BMYL Lacrosse agree to abide by the Code of Conduct and to be subject to the consequences of violating the Code.
It shall be a condition of participating in BMYL Lacrosse as a coach, player or parent that, by enrolling in the BMYL Program or acting as a coach, players, coaches and parents of players are all bound by this Code of Conduct, and its validity is hereby a matter of record and is not dependent upon physical signature.

 All enforcement decisions made by officials of BMYL Lacrosse are final and are not subject to review.  No refunds will be granted to those players dismissed from the Club for violations of the Code of Conduct by themselves or their parents.

 Coaches and Participating Parents


  • The top priority is to teach basic lacrosse skills in a fun and safe manner, not a team’s win/loss record.
  • Coaches are to teach and encourage players through positive reinforcement.  Coaches should always demonstrate positive behaviors and reinforce them to players, parents, officials and spectators alike.  Players should be specifically encouraged and positively reinforced by coaches to demonstrate respect for teammates, opponents, officials and spectators. 
  • Coaches must help reinforce the self-image of each player by being positive and constructive.
  • Know and teach the rules of lacrosse.  Abide by those rules in practice and games.
  • Teach and practice good sportsmanship at all games and practices.
  • Establish objectives for your team and players and inform them of team and individual goals.
  • Teaching should be emphasized in practice, with games serving as an opportunity for kids to play and learn from their mistakes.  Coaches should avoid over instructing play during games. Negative comments by coaches from the sideline to players on the field during games will not be tolerated.
  • Referees are to be respected and supported, do not openly argue with referees over calls not related to a players’ safety.  Coaches also are expected to educate their players as to the important role of lacrosse officials and reinforce the ideal of respect for the officials to players/teammates.    


  • Coaches of the 1st & 2nd grade clinic and 3rd & 4th grade program shall do their best to ensure that everyone plays an equal number of minutes per game.  The 3/4th Grade coaches should substitute by rotating lines through each field position whenever feasible, so as to allow players to play each position, e.g., new line enters at defense, defense line moves to midfield, midfield moves to attack, attach line substitutes out.
  • Coaches for A Teams shall do their best to ensure that everyone plays a significant amount of time.  It is presumed that players selected for such teams are skilled enough to play on the team, and therefore should all play significant time.  As with all teams in BMYL Lacrosse, the top priority is the teaching of the game and instilling a love of the game, not a team’s win/loss record.  A player does not learn and improve by not playing significant time in each game.
  • Players should be allowed to play each position, although this may be modified at the 5/6 and 7/8 levels.  Even at this level, however, players should get some opportunity to play different positions. Goalies should be encouraged to play the field when not playing in the goal, including at the A level.
  • Coaches shall not have players from other teams play on their teams unless their team has less than fifteen players show up for a game.  In such cases, coaches should invite different players from BMYL only to play for their team.
  • Obscene language or gestures will not be tolerated.
  • Be modest in victory and gracious in defeat.


Non-Coaching Parents and Spectators

  •   Teach and practice good sportsmanship at all games and practices.  You are role models!
  •   Know the rules of the game of lacrosse.
  •   Respect the game of lacrosse.  Respect the officials. Respect the coaches, who are volunteers.
  •   Do not coach your child during games or practices.  Let players play and coaches coach, and support both positively.
  •   Do not EVER criticize players no matter what the circumstances.
  •   Do not criticize referees.
  •   Obscene language or gestures will not be tolerated.
  •   Any concerns about how the league is run, coaches are coaching, or referees are officiating should be referred to the Head Coach first.
  •   Follow the 24 Hour Rule…. if you have a complaint resulting from a game (or practice) situation, speak with the coach on the following day.
  •   If there is a serious problem, notify a Board Member of BMYL Lacrosse.
  •   Emphasize the FUN of the game and the team, putting forth effort at all times, not wins and losses
  •   Take time to discuss with your sons and daughters the guidelines for players that are listed below.



  •   Respect your teammates, coaches, referees and opponents at all times.
  •   Arrive on the field on time and fully equipped.
  •   Coaches and referees are volunteering their time for your good and should be respected.
  •   Give 100% effort at each practice and game.
  •   Know the rules of the game of lacrosse and abide by them.
  •   Support and encourage your teammates.  Set a positive example.
  •   Wear the required equipment at all games and practices, and keep your equipment well maintained.
  •   Display good sportsmanship at all times on and off the field.
  •   Don’t be afraid to make a mistake; that is a part of learning.
  •   Learn from your coaches; practice hard; play smart; have fun!
  •   Obscene language or gestures will not be tolerated.
  •   Be modest in victory and gracious in defeat.



  •   All conduct, including abusive language and/or gestures, racially insensitive remarks, damage to property or belongings, or any other conduct that reflects poorly on yourself or BMYL is deemed to be unacceptable and will not be tolerated.  This rule applies to all players, parents, siblings and guests at all times when in or around games or practices as a member of BMYL.
  •   During a tournament or game when you are away, you represent the Town of Briarcliff Manor and BMYL  Any conduct such as shoplifting, destruction of property, consumption of drugs or alcohol, or any other activity will not be tolerated.  This rule applies for the entire time one is away for a game or tournament.
  •   The Board of Directors of BMYL Lacrosse will deal with unacceptable conduct at its sole discretion, imposing warnings, suspension or expulsion, as it deems appropriate.  ANY SUSPENSION OR EXPULSION BASED ON VIOLATIONS OF THE CODE OF CONDUCT WILL NOT BE ACCOMPANIED BY A REGISTRATION REFUND.

Below is a copy of the Code of Conduct which you signed during registration:

"Youth Sports should be fun for players, coaches and parents"



BMYL believes that all of our children should be allowed to develop a love for each sport they participate in while also learning the value of sportsmanship. With this in mind, BMYL firmly believes that all parents and coaches play an important role in our programs, and that young athletes learn valuable lessons by watching the behaviors and attitudes of the adults who supervise their activities. Conversely, BMYL also recognizes that sports are competitive by nature. Therefore, the BMYL Executive Board pledge′s to create a positive learning experience where our children learn the importance of teamwork and good sportsmanship, while at the same time learn to play and respect the game. 


 The BMYL Code of Conduct and the Practice Good Sportsmanship Policy are in place to help support our players, coaches and parents. The BMYL Policies and Procedures for enforcing these codes of conduct can be found under BMYL Policies and rules enforcement document. 


Please make sure you read and adhere to the following BMYL Code of Conduct Policy at all times.


Parent′s and Coaches Code of Conduct:

I hereby pledge to provide positive support, care and encouragement for my child, and other children, participating in youth sports by following this Parents′ and Coaches′ Code of Conduct. I also understand that this is a "Zero Tolerance" policy.


  • I will have my child arrive on time for all games and practices and let the coach know in advance if my child will be absent, arriving late or leaving early.
  • I will encourage good sportsmanship by demonstrating positive support for all players, coaches, and officials at every game, practice or other youth sports event.
  • I will not engage in any type of physical or verbal abuse of any official, player, coach or spectator at any time.
  • I will place the emotional and physical well-being of my child, and other children, ahead of my personal desire to win, and keep in mind that the game is for our children - not for adults.
  • I will insist that my child, and other children, play in a safe and healthy environment.
  • I will support coaches and officials working with my child, in order to encourage a positive and enjoyable experience for all.
  • I will demand a sports environment for my child that is free of drugs, tobacco, and alcohol and will refrain from their use at all youth sports events.
  • I will insist that my child treat other players, coaches, fans, and officials with respect, regardless of race, sex, creed, or ability.
  • I understand, that in order for my child to be eligible for play, I must complete all required forms and applications, and pay the required membership and sport fees as per the BMYL Registrar′s direction.
  • I will contact a BMYL Board member and report any type of physical or verbal abuse or non-fair play that I eyewitness.

Any concerns about how the league is run, how coaches are coaching or how referees are officiating should be referred to the Head Coach first, and if not satisfied, then to a BMYL Board member